From Armor to Ease

Relationship Anarchy & Intimacy with Ashtin Berry

March 08, 2023 Chichi Agorom Season 1 Episode 2

In this episode, Chichi Agorom and Ashtin Berry discuss:

  1. Intimacy of the mind, body, self, and spirit
  2. Relationship anarchy & how it supports intimacy
  3. Relationship Intake Forms
  4. Goodie bags

About Ashtin: 
Ashtin Berry (she/her) is a lot of things. For one, she’s someone who has made a point of it being as hard as possible to condense who they are into two small paragraphs, but here we are. Ashtin is an activist, educator, sommelier, mixologist, sociologist, beverage consultant, human being, and creator of not just cocktails but change. By 25 she had a decade of experience in hospitality, and by now, she’s been the beverage director of a half dozen spots and worked with many brands you’ve heard of. In that time, Ashtin’s also earned Imbibe Magazine’s 2019 Bartender of the Year and Observer’s 50 Most Influential People in Dining and Nightlife, and 50 Best bars 2020 Icon Award.

As an activist—and this is all while doing everything stated above—Berry has developed an intersectional framework for building spaces that has culminated in her present day focus of consent-based communication and building open, honest spaces where employees are people that can do more than simply survive. In 2018, her creative content agency Radical XChange was born, and she launched the yearly multi-day symposium Resistance Served to celebrate and contextualize the contributions of the African Diaspora in hospitality. She’s been recognized for her advocacy work as a member of the World’s 50 Next. And in that time, she’s still managed to find time to read, travel, and track down amazing shoes. You can find her at www.ashtinberry.com

People & things referenced in episode:

Instagram Live conversation with Dr. Yaba Blay: https://www.instagram.com/reel/ClcCYOnopPY/?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=

Andie Nordgren, who coined the term Relationship Anarchy: https://log.andie.se/post/26652940513/the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship

Relationship Anarchy chart: https://emilylichtenberg.art/relationshipanarchy


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Music by Ashot-Danielyan-Composer from Pixabay

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